Is it appropriate to dictate my bridesmaids' hair?

In my wedding, I really want all of my bridesmaids to wear their hair up in some sort of updo (not necessarily all the same style) and I want to be the only one who has my hair down. I don't want to be the overbearing bride, howevever and I'm really not sure if it's appropriate to suggest hairstyles to them. Any thoughts?

Is it appropriate to dictate my bridesmaids' hair?

If you had a photos and insisted that your bridesmaids all exactly copy the hair style in the photo, that would be dictating. Asking if anyone has a problem wearing their hair up off their collar is a positive thing, a step toward consensus. Instead of you doing the suggesting, have each of the BMs submit a few pix of updo's to you for your approval. Bridesmaids who feel like they have a big say in their clothes and hair and stuff are happier, more helpful bridesmaids.

If "homemade" chigons and twists won't do and it must be a salon created style, you should offer to reimburse any reasonable fee. In that case, each BM should check ahead of time with her hairdresser to make sure it can actually be done -- some styles are just not compatible with some heads. You Always Have Other Options, they say.

Is it appropriate to dictate my bridesmaids' hair?

You can make suggestions and you can even pay for it. However, it is not your place, whether it's your wedding or not, to demand that your bridesmaids MUST have their hair in some manner. Not all women look good with their hair up, for instance, or they may not be able to afford to have the styling done.

Is it appropriate to dictate my bridesmaids' hair?

Yes, you can but you will have to pay for the stylist. The bridemaids should be willing to do what you want if they are your friends.

Is it appropriate to dictate my bridesmaids' hair?

You can but if you are requiring updo's then you are also expected to pay the cost of the hairdresser to do them. If for some reason they balk you really have no ground to tell them "put your hair up or you are out of the wedding"....that is total bridezilla.

Personally I would never in my life dream of dictating to grown women how they have to do their hair but some brides do.

Is it appropriate to dictate my bridesmaids' hair?

The way to handle this is to tell the girls what you want and then you pay the bill for them all to go to the hairdresser and get it done...everyone is happy and yes, you do have a great say in what your wedding pictures look like!

Is it appropriate to dictate my bridesmaids' hair?

IT don't hurt to ask as they can only say yes or no.

explain to them that it will make the pictures nicer..

Is it appropriate to dictate my bridesmaids' hair?

Requesting that they all wear their hair up is not being Bridezilla. It is your special day and you should stand out from everyone else, they should understand.

Is it appropriate to dictate my bridesmaids' hair?

If you are paying for it, then ya you can encourage updo's. if not, then nope, inappropriate completely.

I personally wouldn't care if my friend told me to wear my hair up, but I have read a lot of situations where bridesmaids get upset because the brides suggests this.

Is it appropriate to dictate my bridesmaids' hair?

If you pay, you have a say

Good luck :)

Is it appropriate to dictate my bridesmaids' hair?

I plan to tell my bridesmaids how their hair has to be done, but I also plan on hiring a stylist to do every ones hair that day and to pay for the consultation before hand. It is already in my wedding budget. As long as you are paying, nobody can really complain, and it is entirely appropriate. now if you are telling them they have to wear their hair up and pay to have it done, that is a little much.

I am paying for the dresses, hair, makeup, so my girls will look how I want for the pictures, but won't be financially burdened. I think just paying for the hair is fine though. It is your special day, and an updo isn't the end of the world. If they have short hair, they may just have the front pulled back with some loose curls though.

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Is it appropriate to dictate my bridesmaids' hair?

I've been a bridesmaid many times and I've also been the bride. In my experience, I've always asked the bride what they wanted me to do with my hair. In turn, my bridesmaids asked me how I wanted their hair. I told them that I really didn't care, but they pushed and I since we all had pretty long hair, I thought we could wear it half up and curled. I also paid for their hair. Have they asked you yet how you want them to wear their hair? If not, you can make suggestions, but in my opinion, a good bridesmaid would ask what your preference is.

Is it appropriate to dictate my bridesmaids' hair?

You can suggest it and if you are paying for it, then they'll have to go with it. But if you're not then just suggest it, for all you know, they could be wanting to wear their hair up. If you aren't paying for it and they don't like the idea of an updo why don't you compramise? What if they had their hair up with a few strands of hair hanging free that can be crimped or straightned or curled.

I agree with people that say you don't want to be Bridezilla ordering what to do. My aunt was a TOTAL Bridezilla. She picked out the dresses(wasn't paying and even if they itched, it didn't matter), hair styles (she wasn't even paying!),shoes (she wasn't paying) and everything else. At her wedding she told the make-up artist what to put on us even if it would be too much and hogged all of the camera light. I don't think you want to be like that.

Suggest and compramise are key. Good luck and congrats.

Is it appropriate to dictate my bridesmaids' hair?

If they have the option of whether or not they want their hair done, then it's on their wallet, but if you have a special request, you should definitly pay for it. There may be someone who can't afford to put their hair in an updo, and it's not fair to put them in that situation.

Is it appropriate to dictate my bridesmaids' hair?

I believe that it is appropriate for you to say how you would like the bridesmaid's hair to be worn for your wedding. An upstyle is more expensive so consider fully funding or partially funding the hairstyles for them. Hope everything goes really well.

Is it appropriate to dictate my bridesmaids' hair?

Yes it is your wedding and your bridemaids shouldn't be upset as long as your happy. You have to please yourself this is your day and should be done the way you want no matter what other thoughts are you want to be able to look back and say i got everything i wanted.

Is it appropriate to dictate my bridesmaids' hair?

No you really can't dictate how they will wear their hair unless you're willing to pay for it. Hopefully your bridesmaids will ask you your opinion though!

Is it appropriate to dictate my bridesmaids' hair?

If you are paying for it, then yes. But if she is your friend, she will do it anyway.

Is it appropriate to dictate my bridesmaids' hair?

Suggest, don't dictate. Just say that you think it would be great if they had updos. Pay for their salon visit.

Is it appropriate to dictate my bridesmaids' hair?

Consulting with them and letting them know your vision, AND asking for their input, is appropriate. Dictating the hairstyles they will wear is not.